December 21, 2015

The second Hips show was a rare and unique event.  There were a few songs, “Song for JB”, “White Falcon Fuzz” and “Del Mar Station”,  which exhibited and extracted so much emotion - the friends I was standing near felt it too and we came together, separate yet conjoined on the same plane.  It was wicked.  The next day I decided to go romp around Mission District, get more Christmas shopping done.  I got stuff for the kids and then headed to my favorite Mexican restaurant.  I visited Good Vibrations afterwards…  

…which brings to mind a conversation I had with a male friend today.  He asked why I post sex stuff on FB.  To me, it isn’t the personal stuff.  Granted, I’m celibate right now, but even if I wasn’t, I would never post that information, which is sacred to me.  What I do post about is healthy sexuality, which I deem to be important and still filled (especially for women) with too much same.  His comments where that I was a smart woman and that others, men especially, would think I was easy by my posting about sex/visiting a sex store, etc.  Quite a conundrum as I am the furthest thing from easy.  I’ve been hit on and propositioned by men, by musicians, for sex and I have turned them down every time.  According to him,  I would not be looked upon “as girlfriend material” by the comments I make/post.  This  societal stigma annoys the hell out of me because in order to “catch” a man, I would need to stop voicing my beliefs about  healthy sexuality and succumb to what society deems as “correct female behavior,” which I hate, but was honored that he told me about (some) men’s perception because he cares about me.  

It was getting closer to Sunday show time when Victoria texted and said she was extending her stay and would be there another night.  I called The Opal and was also able to get an inexpensive room, so hustled down and got ready for Slim’s.  The show here was semi-acoustic and blew me away (again).  They played some Ball-Point Birds songs, as well, which I love. I even got to be a part-time merch-chick for about 10 minute s(moving up in the world).  Victoria and I enjoyed some Thai food after the show, and I slept the whole night through.  I have been in so many places in the last  month…so many different sleeps.  

The drive home was smooth and traffic-free despite it being rush hour.  The pups were thrilled to see me and I have earned 2 free nights, so I will stay in Chico for NYE instead of driving home.  I was having an office Christmas party  and there was lots of preparation.  As I drove to the store, I got an incredible email which made me so very happy:   Switzerland had confirmed all the paper work and my children were now recorded as being citizens of Schwellbrun, AR – Swiss citizens.  I haven’t had such terrific news in some time.

 Despite my guest bringing food, I still made 5 dishes, so when they got there a great deal of food was present.  Cards Against Humanity was absolutely hilarious and hit the very topics my friend had said would give men the wrong perception about me (I’ll be sure never to play this game with them )!  Long three (4?) days….  I’m ready for my bed.  

Pictures:  Hipsmas 2015, GAMH; Me with Shari; Slim's; An apropos poster; My Christmas party